CHALLENGES of being a SINGLE PARENT

Seperation,Divorce,mom and dad may never have lived together,or one of them have died this are the most common reasons why end up to be a SINGLE PARENT.

It's quiet challenging to become a single parent and I tell you it's not easy. One of the challenges is most single parents are often working parents because someone needs to earn money to pay for food,clothing,and a place to live. Unless you are receiving child support but if not then good luck you will be the sole source of support for your child.And that can create STRESS. Most Single working parents work overtime at their jobs or having a lot of part time job for extra income in order to make ends meet.





I TAKE CARE

Because Mom is at work most kids simply take care of themselves for all or part of the time. My daughter is 8 years old now and she is very responsible and I can really trust her. This can be alright as long as your child knows the DO'S and DONT's and most especially they know what to do in case of an emergency.

Being a SUPERWOMAN

It's not only work but it's a full day's worth of task awaiting you at home.Since I become a single mom I only slept 4 hours everyday because after work when I got home I will cook,clean the house,drop and pick up my daughter in school,helping her with her homeworks and projects and during rest days I need to do my laundry and off to supermarket for groceries. Although these same obligations are faced by working mothers who are married, a single parent has to face these responsibilities alone, with­out the helping hand of a husband. For that reason, many single parents feel chronically fatigued. They often feel physically and emotionally exhausted and find themselves yelling more at their children.

NO TIME FOR SELF

Single parents feel chronically fatigued. They often feel physically and emotionally exhausted and find themselves yelling more at their children. No wonder a lot of things going on her mind like bills perhaps especially if your child get sick. Most Single Parents are potential to Depression common signs are  persistent sadness, irritability, difficulty sleeping, and weight gain or loss.

BURDEN STRIKES

I know most of us single mom out there begin  to perceive the responsibilities of child-raising as overwhelming.  Single parents ex­perience a great deal of tension and sometimes guilt that comes with not being able to attend to all of their child's needs or to provide all of the opportunities they wish their child to have.

Being a single mom is not easy it's challenging but we need to move on and embrace it's challenges courageously. Take it with full of positivity and full of responsibility. Manage your time wisely,stay happy,have fun with your kids. I know that it's a hell of work outhere but we can insert a little or more time just to be with our kids.

Time may be tight, but kids in single-parent families can make a difference by helping out around the house. They also can make another important contribution: reminding their moms or dads to have a little fun!

Through The Looking Glass

Everybody is looking for ways to be happy. Some chooses their career, building it from the bottom and not stopping till they get to the top. Some does everything they can to stay close and build a lasting relationship with their family. Some chooses material things over emotions. Some finds comfort putting other people down and some looks for love that they had before from others that cannot give the same. To be honest there are a lot of reasons, a lot of choices and a lot of things to consider when it comes to being contented and being happy. No one really gets contented with what they have. Even me.

I don't blame the choices people make to fulfill whatever it is they need to fulfill. As much as it hurts me, I can never decide for anyone but myself. I can't blame the person who chooses their career or the person who likes judging me and putting me down. Why? because that's what makes them happy. And I get judged because of that.

I envy anyone who can honestly say that they've loved or is in love. I admire them for they chose to be happy by looking for love and being loved. Every one loves differently and in today's society where gender, race, financial capacity or physical appearance are mere words, makes love abundant. Unfortunately because of how we think people are going to judge us, that love dies even before it beats.

Take me for example. Some who knows me would say that I live in a dream when it comes to love and let me vaguely tell you why.

I am living a fantasy. I am waiting for someone right, someone not perfect but can make perfect memories with me. Someone who will knock me off my feet, make me feel gushy, make me feel safe, wanted, protected and loved. Someone who will come to my rescue and fall in love with me like what happens in movies and fairy tales. I want the whole shebang. And although I don't necessarily look the same as the characters in the movies nor have the same "qualities" i get judged for acting like i do.

Life is funny that way. If you're someone like me there are a few things that I wanna assure you and you may take this however you prefer.

First. You are never judged for no reason! You just have to know whose judgments count. I have a lot of friends who judges me all the time but I accept the ones that matters. You are never alone in this world so learn to keep the company that matters. :)

Second. You judge too like I do. If it makes you happy by all means continue. For me? I try very hard to keep it for myself (emphasis on "try hard"). I am not the type of person who likes confrontation and conflicts. i think.

Third. Let yourself be judged. It's life! you will always be judged.

Fourth. Never lose who you are and what you want. If you feel like a girl and want to wait for Mr. Right then wait! they're not going to live your life, you will. It doesn't mean that you shouldn't listen.

Last one. Make mistakes, make a lot of them. Be stupid. Be alive. Be wrong and be you. its less stressful when your not always right. Trying to be perfect is high maintenance. :)

Be with friends who cares for you because you're you and not someone else. I am.

Love Love Love...

ZEN - Work||Life Balance

If you feel that you're dragging yourself to work then you're doing it wrong.. It's not your work. It's you.


#BalanceTips

 When you go home, spend time with your family, they are the reason you're working. Don't sleep immediately.

 Do random small projects that will make you proud of yourself. Although supporting your brother or sister financially is great, self fulfillment doesn't kick in till they graduate. Add small stuff like decorating you room or learning how to not burn fried eggs.t makes sense..

Visit places during days off that will not cost you much. Don't be a bum or a couch potato during Rest Days. Try going to Ayala, SM, Cmall, Emall, Park Mall, Mall Mall and all the words that ends with Mall.. They're free and it gives you the chance to meet someone you know randomly.

 Don't be afraid to admit that life can sometimes be boring. It only stays boring if you want it to.

 Have some alone time once in a while. You will only feel depressed when you have friends and don't know what to do on your free time. Why not focus on you                                          

and get a massage. 

Never forget to smile even if you have to fake it... It adds to your mood and it'll make your day a bit better.

 And last but not the least. Never judge a co worker and question why they are in their position when they clearly don't know what they are doing. Why? Because your stressing yourself with something that you have no knowledge about. Cause if you did? You should have applied but didn't. Let them do their job and focus on not screwing up yours.

Smile. I said already but it makes sense..

Life's always better when you smile! :)

The Coffee Addiction

My Starbucks :-))

I am so passionately obsessed with coffee. I craved everyday and can't lived without coffee. I drink freshly brewed coffee in the morning and 4-5x at work since I have to work graveyard and it's my energy boost. I died without coffee sounds funny is'nt it? but it's true.

Sometimes I wondered what is it about coffee that keeps us coming back for more? Is it truly the caffeine or is it something else...the sweet aroma,the taste or the sense of taking a cup. It's unusual to find someone who doesn't enjoy a cup of coffee.

I am a coffee fanatic coz I feel down if I can't have it and I have spending a lot buying a grande of machiatto or latte and tried almost all the stuff on this mermaid logo ( love Starbucks) and I have a wide array of tumbler collections. I asked myself sometimes that how do I feel when there is no coffee? of course, DEPRESSO... Having a sip of this aromatic smell it's like a hug in a cup. In times of stress and work overload I know where to turn to a cup of coffee makes my day complete and made me smile and no matter how much coffee you have, you just want for more.

Miracle in Cell No. 7

One of the highest grossing Korean film. The story for me is very emotional and memorable.I burst into tears for 2 hours watching this movie. Especially the scene were his father is about to die. I really can't help it. Even my 8 year old daughter sobbed and shed into tears.

This is a story about father and daughter relationship but very unusual to any normal father and daughter relationship. The father is mentally handicapped, but loves his 7 year old daughter very much,they live happily until one day his father is falsely accused of a crime for kidnapping and murder of a little girl same age of his daughter and sent to prison and given the death penalty.In prison,his father shares a jail cell with five other inmates and saves the life of his cellmate from a rival prison gang leader. So his cellmate helps him in any way he can return the favor. All he wanted is to see his daughter.The five inmates then plan to make a miracle happen. Later, his daughter who is a law school student, works to prove his innocence.

Circumstances conspire to keep them apart, but through sheer determination and the help of other prison inmates, they're able to find time to be happy together. This family changes the hardened people around them for better. It's a very manipulative and emotional movie that you can't help by cry. It's truly an amazing movie.

My Top 5 Friendliest Dog

A lot of people right now are fond of dogs as their pet. Thinking of adding a dog to your family? Make sure it's the right breed for you. Here are the top 5 breeds that I gather which is very friendly and good companions for your kids.

Labrador Retriever

They are easygoing nature and trainability. A lot chooses this breed as a companion in the home. Simply a family dog very loving and loyal and really enjoys playing games and socializing with people and loves cildren and with other animals. They excel as guide dogs, search-and-rescue dogs and law enforcement dogs.They are an excellent student and love learning new things.

Beagle

"The Happy Go Lucky Dog" known for their merry personalities. Beagles can be a remarkably child friendly dog who is both gentle and tolerant.

Boxer

"The Child Friendly Dog". They're patient,spirited and protective with children. The Boxer dog loves to play and gets along well with kids.

Staffordshire Bull Terrier

popularly known “The Children’s Nursemaid” or “The Nanny Dog.” They're Courageous, obedient, highly intelligent and affectionate.

Poodle

The Standard Poodle is one of the most intelligent dog breeds. It loves to impress its human family and gets along well with children and other dogs. The Standard Poodle also excels at dog sports.

When getting a dog make sure you are financially,emotionally and mentally prepare. It takes patience and effort to train them and most especially they also need your love and care.